Do you love your spouse?
Ephesians 5:33
However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly].
The scriptures above gives us light on how God expects couples to treat one another. Today you have to learn that your love should always be a verb and not just a noun. That is why, where there is a need to physically show love you do, fleeing, you flee. Where need be to pray, you pray. These things need to be consistent and improved with time. You should only get better.
There is God’s pattern for marriage and there is the worlds. Be careful which you follow, it will determine your success or failure. You cannot follow God and behave towards your spouse, as an unbeliever compares thier partner to every person. Remain true to God. You will be faithful to your spouse.
You love your spouse when you accept that God has created your spouse especially for you. When you remember this, you’re more likely to show them patience and respect. This is huge. We must be self-aware of our past wounds and be careful not to project them on our spouse. On the flip side, we need to be sensitive to our spouse’s past experiences and help them to find healing. It is never “his problem” or “her problem”; every problem is “our problem” in marriage. Face it all together! Hand in hand, and heart to heart. God is greater than all our problems!
The evidence of love in marriage means being completely truthful and transparent. You would have to reconsider having a relationship with the opposite sex, when you’re ever in a position where you think, “I’m glad my husband/wife isn’t seeing this,” then you’re already out of bounds and you’re playing with fire, the kind of fire that has taken many to an early grave.
You know you truly love your spouse when your dressing is not about impressing a specific individual other than your spouse or yourself. When we’re trying to be visually attractive for an individual other than our spouse, we’re opening a very dangerous door. Wanting to be professional and look your best is one thing, but wanting to look your best for one specific person is something else entirely. If this is where you are, stop immediately.
You really love your spouse when you make a decision not to try to create opportunities to be alone with someone other than your spouse. Check your motives If you’re going out of your way to “run into” someone so you can have one-on-one conversations, that’s a huge red flag. You need to put immediate distance between you and him/her, when you fall into the trap of immortality don’t excuse it as a mistake because It was intentionally premeditated and executed.
Do you really love your spouse then why the secrecy? Why do You delete text messages or emails from someone, because you don’t want your spouse to see them? You are to prove consistently that your Love is true. Be kind because if you’re ever hiding messages, texts or calls, then you’ve crossed an obvious line and you’re having an emotional affair. Also this can lead to having consistent romantic and/or sexual fantasies about someone other than your spouse. Be hidden in God’s love stop giving a piece of your heart to the object of that fantasy. Your body belongs to your spouse, that should be kept away from strangers and should remain a secret.
This is huge. None of us are beyond temptation. That is precisely why we need to put healthy boundaries in place with people of the opposite sex, those who don’t respect our marriage and family, and also with ourselves when it comes to unhealthy habits and behaviors. Love is a commitment. A promise. A lifelong vow. Let’s always remember that and never choose temporary pleasure over our permanent promise. It might be hard sometimes, but our marriage and family are worth it!
I believe in God’s vision for your marriage. Stay focus, fight for it. You are not alone God got your back, it is his will that you have a peaceful home so walk with Him, He will show you how.❤️ Ephesians 5:33
Note
I do not advocate for domestic violence and abuse of any form because it is not part of God’s will. If you are in such? Seek for help now!
If you are the abuser, change now before it is too late. You will not always get away with it.
Dear Gotname, as usual, your lines on love in marriage is crystal; it contains no spot. Your words are quite inspiring and can cause tremendous healing to a souring marriage.
No love better than the love of the God who invented marriage. His principles are classic and unmatchable.
Be true and transparent, spouses, Gotname encourages.
Thank you Sir. Marriage makes up the church, no wonder the devil is on. God wins all the time. Glory to God.